Having written all my life as a ponderer, philosopher, and surgeon-caregiver, there’s simply too much good stuff for one topic menu, and besides, “luck” is not always “reckless.” So from here on, I’ll be posting not only moments of reckless luck (as per my soon-forthcoming Reckless But Lucky book), but also, I will push the boundaries and include material from a couple of additional books I’m also currently writing. These on poetic living, nature, and philosophy.
For a “Viva la Difference,” check out my very first blog on the present site, Articulating Nature. As in my poem Truth and Beauty, which leads off my next book, my writing will travel along the vital pathways of man, nature, and poetic living. And adventure!
So stay tuned! Here’s a new tune, “Wall of Yes.”
WALL OF YES
In talking to my grown son, Bill, about my wife Bev, in an early Alzheimer’s gradual decline, I noted, “It’s difficult with your mother blaming me for all of her screw-ups.”
Bill replied, “With any ongoing relationship, conflict might not be necessary, there’s a silver lining. You can take the blame for everything but never pay the price for anything. It’s like the ‘Wall of Yes’ they use in South Asia and the Philippines; they politely agree to do anything you ask, but actually do whatever they wanted to do, regardless. They never offer an excuse, only ‘Yes Sir, you are right. I am very sorry and will make it better as soon as I can.’ If you try to get one of them to take immediate action in front of you, they politely come up with reasons beyond their control that require them to do it later. They assure you it will be done as soon as they are able. It might be the perfect strategy for Mom!”
“You’re right, I won’t leave the lights on again!”
“I must have knocked it over without noticing. Could you help me clean it up? In fact, if you can get started, I will be right back to help, I am overdue to take my medication…” Disappear for 10 minutes.
“Sure, I’ll turn the volume down on the game, let me find the remote control…” If you ever actually do have to turn it down, turn it right back up as soon as she leaves. Repeat the cycle as needed.
Bill continued, “The same mentality works with any others! When driving, just accept the fact that you tend to concentrate on conversations instead of turning off the highway at the appropriate place, which means that you will always have a problem missing turns. If a passenger objects, use your ‘Lost in Paradise’ mentality. Miss the turn rather than create stress.”
This mentality came from a time when my daughter and I were on a Cayman Island motorcycle adventure and found ourselves quite lost. I shrugged it off, saying, “But we’re lost on paradise, so what?”